The Blister Gap: What a Conversation About Shoes Revealed About Inclusion
It started with a conversation about trainers.
At a recent informal networking session, I was chatting with Owen Wyatt — he’s about my height (around 6ft) — and Tricia Walker, who appeared to be about 5ft 11.
Owen and I were both in comfy trainers (his had especially colourful soles), and we got talking about how freeing it is to move away from those stiff, formal black business shoes we used to wear.
Then we noticed the look on Tricia’s face.
Her shoes had been hidden beneath a lovely summer dress. But when she shifted, she revealed a pair of stilettos with 4-inch heels. Then she quietly took them off.
Her actual height? About 5ft 6.
Tricia explained that at 5ft 11, she felt more included in conversations — more likely to be seen and heard. So she endured the pain, the blisters, and the discomfort just to level the playing field.
It was a powerful moment — and a clear reminder to Owen and me of the relative advantage we walk around with every day. Something to be thankful for — and aware of.
What went viral as “the blister gap” resonated with thousands of women and allies, sparking a wave of supportive, candid, and emotional responses. Many shared similar stories of what they felt they had to wear — or do — just to be visible, heard, or respected.
This wasn’t just about shoes.
It was about culture, visibility, and what people feel they have to endure just to be taken seriously.
If we’re serious about inclusion, we need to start with empathy.
Let’s build a culture where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued — no matter what shoes they wear.